When we study tango, we often look down. We should look up. Or out. Or beyond. Anywhere but down. We concentrate on steps, on fancy figures, on balance, about where to place our feet. We should be wondering about where we place our soul. Can you approach a complete stranger, open yourself to their deep…
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7 responses to “Draft Mastery”
great to read you every sunday, Kevin. Enjoy your concerts.
I have an acquaintance who is a marriage counselor. First visit, he takes the couple to a ballroom lesson; he says he finds out everything he needs to know from observing their interaction.
I love that photo Kevin! (which ‘effect’ did you use?) And, Marti – as a counselor – I like the idea of taking the couple to a dance class. You learn a lot about a person/couple from the way they dance.
Dear Andrew, Marti and Maraya, many thanks for your messages!
Yes, when you dance close with someone there is so much communication, most of it involuntary and out of our control. You better be ready to open up — because it’s going to happen anyway!
I love the idea of the marriage counselor using dance to cut to the quick of it all.
Maraya, the effect is the “stained glass” filter that is one of the standard artistic effects in Adobe Photoshop. Seemed fitting, being in Paris and it looked right for that photo which was a bit “noisy” because of the lack of light. (You would have loved that milonga.)
– Kevin
Kevin, I posted this on fb before I even realized that it’s you! Oh, that Kevin! I find that when I am teaching a couple in a private lesson, it often becomes very much a kinetic couples therapy hour (though since I was once an actual mental health counselor, I don’t label it (nor charge for) “therapy”. And when I am on and off the pista, it is mostly this spiritual side of tango – way more than technique and “steps” – that engages me most deeply. Thanks for posting. And come back to Portland asap!
Another aspect: we know about tango as useful physical therapy for diseases such as Parkinson’s, the effect of tango even more than other music, on the brain. But many people who have such conditions also become depressed or emotionally withdrawn, and the human interaction and multi-level communication tango requires also combats that. I credit our tango with keeping my husband, who has Parkinson’s, not only on his feet and better balanced physically, but also emotionally and socially.
As a follower (in tango as in other dances), I have often preferred a simpler pattern that expresses the music, to a complex one that doesn’t. A leader may have a sequence of steps memorized, but getting a follower to, well, follow, while still connecting to the music can be challenging.
On good dances, I actually close my eyes. I hear the music better, and feel the lead better. I let go of nervous anticipation and give myself to the leader, whom I obviously trust. When I can do that, it is a gift of relaxation, pleasure, total oblivion for me.
Last Sunday, I was lucky enough to close my eyes a few times on the dance floor.
P.S. My dance teacher (pre-tango) used to say the exact same thing about teaching couples, and being able to tell the dynamics of the couple.